5 Ways To Put Your Girlfriend In The Mood For S*x [Guys Only]

5 Ways To Put Your Girlfriend In The
Mood For S*x [Guys Only]
You have to put her in the right mood so she can do
the work. As a guy, you’re probably the one who
initiates s*x in your relationship. It’s not that your
girlfriend isn’t in the mood or doesn’t want as much
s*x as you do— you’re just the one who rings the
dinner bell 99.9 percent of the time.
Why is that? “This comes from many things, but
one of them is that women are afraid that if they
step out of traditional gender roles, they won’t be
seen, accepted, and appreciated as feminine being,”
says psychologist and relationship expert Tracy
Thomas, Ph.D. “It also becomes another area
where she could potentially fail, and be rejected—
and most women are terrified of being rejected.”
But you can fix this, Thomas says, by creating an
atmosphere in which she doesn’t feel like she
needs to be perfect. “You want to get her in the
mood—make her horny—but what does that mean?”
Thomas says. “What you really want is to make her
feel like it’s safe for her to let go, like she can
surrender to her s*xual desires.”
Here are five tips to get her in the mood, so much
so, that she’ll come onto you.
Start early
Seduction starts long before any clothes come off,
notes relationship expert April Masini of
AskApril.com. “Women are a lot slower to warm up,
so if you start their engines early and often, you’re
more likely to score later,” she says.
If you want her to be in the mood later, start
foreplay (or, well, a PG-13-rated version of it) in the
morning, before you leave for work. Don’t overdo it
—the idea is to plant a seed in her mind and leave
her wanting more, not annoy her with over-the-top
romance while she’s trying to do her makeup. Keep
it up throughout the day with a short, strategically-
timed text message or phone call, and by the time
you get home she’ll be ready to jump you.
Choose your battles
Arguments don’t make for a very sexy atmosphere
(unless you’re in a movie), so would it kill you to
just let it go? “Being right is sometimes the obstacle
to being happy, and often the obstacle to romance,”
Masini explains. “If there’s the potential for
argument on the table, just ask yourself if this really
is the hill you want to die on.”
Obviously, if you’re arguing about something
important—such as your relationship—it’s another
story. But if it’s just a heated discussion about
politics, or world peace, or pirates versus ninjas,
then giving in to her point of view, at least
temporarily, will do wonders for keeping her in the
mood.
Help her de-stress
This shouldn’t come as a surprise, but it’s hard for
her to get in the mood when she’s under a
mountain of stress. “When we’re under stress,
we’re primarily designed to not seek out pleasure,”
Thomas says. “It’s a survival instinct. Something is
wrong, so we have to fix it!”

It sounds simple enough, but Thomas says the key
is to help her de-stress in a constructive way—not
just help her check off boxes on her endless to-do
list. “If she says she can’t relax because she has
to clean the bathroom, that’s not necessarily your
cue to clean the bathroom,” Thomas explains. “It
probably wouldn’t hurt, but once you’re done she’ll
remember that she has to clean the kitchen, and so
forth. It’s less about cleaning the house and more
about helping her see that a clean house doesn’t
need to take priority over the relationship.” So
pursue that track with her— you’re happy to clean
up once you’ve had some quiet time with her.
Make her pleasure a priority
Be generous in bed, and you will find that s*xual
success is yours, Masini explains. “She wants to
feel good in bed, and if she does, she’ll want to
please you—and have more s*x,” she says. If you
haven’t figured out what she likes in bed, you
should make that a priority, stat! Luckily, it’s as
simple as asking her, providing you ask her when
you’re not between the sheets. “If you think she’s
holding back, coax it out of her by opening the
conversation when you’re not in bed,” Masini
suggests. “That way, she’ll feel like the pressure is
off.” Ultimately, your goal is to have as much s*x as
possible, Masini says. “It sounds stupid, but the
more s*x you have, the more s*x you’ll have. It’s a
lot easier for her to be in the mood to initiate when
s*x is a regular part of your lives.”
Pick up on her cues
You want her to initiate s*x more often? Don’t shut
her down when she tries—even if her attempt is
pretty half-assed. “The first time, or times, she
initiates, she’s going to be nervous that you might
reject her,” Thomas says. “For the most part,
women are not used to being rejected when it
comes to s*x, so it’s really important that you do
not, under any circumstances, give any indication
that she needs to do it better, or initiate more often
when she’s in the middle of initiating.”
It’s basic behavioral conditioning, Thomas explains:
She initiates, you are super-positive about that, and
she’ll do it again and again.